2018-2019

Jane Doe's Step Father (2018-2019)

After Jane Doe birthed her first child. Jane Doe's mother married her step father and she and her daughter moved in with them when her daughter was 2 years old. Here's what was reported: 

11/15/18

Jane Doe presented today during scheduled class time, stating that she chose to attend the appointment instead. She reported an incident earlier in the week in which she believes she may have observed her stepfather in the bathroom with the lights off shortly before Jane Doe’s daughter exited the bathroom. Jane Doe stated that she does not want to make assumptions but reported feeling scared and nervous about what might have occurred. She noted that a somewhat similar incident occurred approximately one month prior. Jane Doe reported that she was strongly encouraged at that time to speak with her stepfather regarding limits and boundaries.

Jane Doe expressed a desire to move out of the home but reported financial limitations. She stated that she is attempting to graduate as soon as possible but feels unsure of herself and uncertain about decision-making. Jane Doe reported that her mother works as a teacher. Jane Doe stated, “I feel like he is doing everything he can to make us dependent on him.” She was encouraged to focus on self-care strategies.

12/05/18

Jane Doe reported that she spoke with her daughter to assess whether her grandfather had behaved inappropriately. She reported that the bathroom issue was discussed but that no additional concerns were disclosed, and she stated that things are otherwise going well in that regard.

Jane Doe reported plans to transfer to UNCG and stated that she obtained her transcript from beauty school but did not complete the program. She reflected on a pattern of initiating projects and then discontinuing them, including a YouTube channel that reached approximately 1,000 views and blogging about beauty, comedy, and skits. She reported that receiving negative emails led her to stop posting content. She stated that some friends continue to watch her videos but that she fears negative reactions from others. Jane Doe reported considering quitting her job at the events center and expressed interest in traveling in the future.

12/19/18

Jane Doe reported that she told her stepfather that he needs to refrain from removing his pants in front of Jane Doe’s daughter. She stated that both she and her mother have now confronted him regarding this boundary. Jane Doe reported working fewer hours with Uber and increased hours at the events center. She stated that she has been decorating for Christmas and reported some improvement in mood.

Jane Doe discussed encounters with former romantic partners who have expressed interest in reconnecting, which she does not wish to pursue. She stated that she prefers to use dating applications during her school break. We discussed healthy relationships. Jane Doe referenced that her sister had previously been in a relationship with her daughter’s father.

01/17/19

Jane Doe reported that she recently started back to school but misfiled the academic year for financial aid and is currently awaiting resolution. She stated that she has asked her parents for financial assistance. Jane Doe reported that her stepfather continues to disregard the boundary related to bathroom behavior in front of her daughter. She stated that he provided her with a lengthy written list of concerns. Jane Doe reported that she and her stepfather are no longer speaking due to ongoing boundary violations.

Jane Doe reported that she is actively working toward moving out. She stated that her beauty school loans are currently in deferment across multiple accounts and that consolidation will be difficult to manage.

03/07/19

Jane Doe reported that she continues to drive for Uber and Lyft and is attempting to leave her position at the events center. She stated that driving at night has been particularly stressful and physically exhausting and that she would prefer to stop night driving. Jane Doe reported reduced scheduling at the events center and described feeling increasingly depressed.

Jane Doe reported that since speaking with her stepfather about entering the bathroom while Jane Doe was present, his behavior has changed and she described him as acting strangely. She stated that he has been spending a significant amount of time outside the home. We discussed coping skills to manage ongoing stressors related to the home environment. Jane Doe remains focused on developing a plan to move out.